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3 myths about father's rights that need to be debunked

There are sadly many myths about father's rights that make them feel they're in a bad position, even though they may actually have the same rights as the mother. Many men believe they have no chance of winning custody or getting a fair share of visitation upon divorce. They think the court is biased and that they have everything to lose.

Myths like these hurt men, especially since the majority don't want to cut ties with their kids even when they want to eliminate all contact with their ex-wives. Men may want to be primary caretakers, and some want to continue having comfortable relationships with their exes.

What myths should be debunked? Here are three you shouldn't believe.

1. Men never win custody because of a mother's bond with her children.

This is simply untrue. The court looks at who took (or takes) care of the children on a daily basis. If both the mother and father spent equal time parenting, then a 50-50 custody split would seem fair. Likewise, if a father was a stay-at-home dad, he might have a better chance seeking primary custody.

There is a higher likelihood of nursing mothers retaining custody of their unweaned children, but even that is not always a barrier to fathers winning primary or even sole custody.

2. Working puts fathers at a disadvantage

That's not the reality so long as a father can show he has the time to take care of his children. Here's an example. A father who works from 8 a.m. until 3:00 p.m. would likely be able to take a child to school and pick him or her up. He'd be there when the child needed care and still be able to work to support the family when the kids are in school. Similarly, a father who does not need to work or who can arrange a schedule around custody with minimal assistance from babysitters or family members would be in a good position to be granted custody.

3. There is a bias against men

At the end of the day, the only thing the court wants to see is that a child lives in a loving, supportive home with a parent who can be there for him or her. Showing that you're responsible and active in your child's life will help you get the custody arrangement you want. The court is unlikely to challenge your ability to parent simply due to your gender or role as a male head-of-household.

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